The Best Business Coach I’ve Ever Had
Over the past 6 years I have worked with a number of business experts including sales directors, business coaches, life coaches and strategy consultants. Some of them were helpful and some of them just talked about themselves. Most recently I have had the privilege of seeing a true master at work and she has taught me more about succeeding in business than all of my previous coaches combined. Who is this business genius you ask?
My 15 month old toddler, Freya.
Now before you right me off as a complete wack-job, hear my out. I have my reasons for believing this.
She takes tiny baby steps.
- In the past few months my daughter has started walking. You know those adorable first few steps that we all take where we looking like inebriated zombies? So adorable right? Well ya, of course! Not only is it adorable to watch, it reminded me that even taking small steps will get me to where I want to go. As a beginner in business there will be projects that I want to take on that an expert would probably be able to bang out in a matter of hours or days but they may take me weeks or months to complete. Does that mean that I won’t actually get there? No, it will just take a little longer and that’s totally cool.
Those tiny baby steps are kind of hilarious to watch.
- We’ve all seen a toddler walk, heck the very name “toddler” comes from the fact that they toddle. They don’t walk. The entire human race thinks it’s adorable as they bounce off walls and fall on their bum. It’s a part of the learning process. Somehow as we age, the learning process becomes less cute and we are ashamed to admit that we are new at something. I’m not sure why this is the case but seriously it’s all part of getting better at something. Watching my tiny human fall down on her bum a million times a day reminds me to be patient with myself when I stumble. If you ask any established business owner to go back and look at some of the things they did in the early days I would be willing to bet that 100% of them could point to something and say, “Oh man! I had no clue what I was doing!” The thing is, they did it. They learned. They got better.
Every day her steps look more like walking and less like a drunk zombie
- Ask anyone who has ever tried to convince a toddler to do something they don’t want to do. They are stubborn little creatures. They have to learn those critical skills like walking, speaking and eating. Watching Freya improve every day is kind of miraculous. It’s like being hit on the head over and over that the same work ethic and stubborn streak is buried somewhere inside myself. I was just like her at one point in my life, why not apply the same umph to my next project.
She falls down…. A lot!
- Sometimes it’s a stumble and sometimes it’s a faceplant into the corner of the coffee table (OUCH!). When she has a small little stumble, she simply stands up and keeps on truckin. When she face-plants into the coffee table she looks for support then once she’s had a good cry gets right back to it. Seriously there is no stopping this kid. It’s those moments that inspire me most, because I make so many mistakes and being somewhat of a perfectionist I have let them slow me down in the past. Now, when I have a setback all I have to do is picture my little one having a stumble, looking up, grinning and climbing back to her feet.
She doesn’t wait for the perfect moment
- My daughter took her first steps on a ferry. Yup, a giant rocking boat in the middle of the pacific ocean is where my little girl decided it was time to let go of my husbands hand and take that first scary step. An ideal time to attempt this? Ummmm… no. Did she succeed? Heck yes! I have the video to prove it! Now something you need to know about me is that I am a serious type A planner. I had a 5 year plan when I was 18. I was always waiting for the right time and the perfect conditions to make something happen and I’ve since realized that this is just not how life works. The right time might be on a rocky boat in the middle of the ocean, so stop planning and start doing. If my kid can do it, why can’t I?
She doesn’t care what other kids her age are doing
- I’m not sure why, but there was something in the air in the spring of 2016 because that was when countless of my friends decided it was time to start a family. I couldn’t open Facebook without seeing another pregnancy announcement! So with so many kids that were born within months, weeks and even hours of my daughter it was almost impossible to keep from making comparisons. Yet, one person didn’t give a rats ass what the other babies were doing and what milestones they were reaching, my daughter. I’ve always been concerned with what other people are doing. However, watching Freya has taught me that comparing myself to others who are doing what I am doing isn’t going to get to my goals any faster. Seriously guys, the child is a genius. 😉
I’m not saying that business coaches are poor investment. The good ones are worth their weight in gold. What I am saying is that working from home with a toddler has provided me with a unique perspective on my business that I wasn’t expecting. I will forever be grateful for the lessons that my daughter has taught me and I hope they inspire you to have a little more patience with yourself and motivate you towards whatever goals you are working on.